Relationships can be some of the most difficult things we have to deal with in our lives.
If you are dealing with a difficult relationships at home, in school or at work, counselling can help you to understand your relational needs. You will learn how you express yourself and decide whether this is ideal, and if not, how you might do things differently. Together, we will explore your thought, feeling and behavioural patterns which lead to conflict. From a position of recognition and understanding, you will find ways to resolve conflict.
When we are considering our difficult relationships, we see that we are dealing with our own complex and often unacknowledged needs, along with the needs, circumstances and history of those we are in relationship with.
Bullying is common in all societies and occurs at all ages and stages. It’s prevalence does not mean we should see it as the “norm”, something to be endured and got over. It can have severe and lasting effects, and can lead to emotional difficulties and mental health problems. It is problematic not only to the bullied but also to the bully.
In time gone by, the common perception was that bullying was confined to schools; now it is known to be a common feature of the workplace. Bullying may be described as displaced aggression which covers up buried fear, a sense of powerlessness, social anxiety, performance anxiety and a broader social fear of the perceived threat.
If you have experienced or are experiencing bullying, in school, at home, in work or elsewhere, therapy will explore what’s going on and help you find better and more effective ways of coping and dealing with the situation. We will also reflect on how you interact with people so you can understand your relationships better and decide what changes you would like to make.
Bullying at Work
Work relationships can be the cause of great stress and anxiety for people. Many of us unfortunately encounter work-place bullying, intimidation and shunning.
Workplace bullying may include:
- Unnecessary and persistent criticism of a colleague’s personal or professional abilities
- Withholding information thereby creating extra work for an employee and deliberately affecting their performance.
- Ignoring, isolating or excluding an individual.
- Humiliating someone in front of colleagues.
- Spreading rumours.
- Placing unrealistic demands or deadlines on a member of staff.
- Misuse of authority/power.